Don’t worry I won’t start this with the normal small talk everyone’s doing. We went from talking about weather to saying things like “It’s a crazy time right now” to “Are you stocked on toilet paper” and then nervously laughing because none of us have any clue what to do. There’s not guidelines to this. There’s no “How to survive COVID-19” dummy books or YouTube step-by-step video on the essentials to survive a pandemic. Anyone try researching the Spanish Flu? I doubt that’s helping you.
Anyways, I’m writing to you because I was talking to one of my best friends, Dante over FaceTime and asked him “How are you?” I retracted that immediately as I answered my own question and thought I mean how do I think anyone is doing. It’s such a strange question to ask right now when normally it’s considered thoughtful. Let’s think about it. When someone experiences a loved one passing its insensitive to ask them how they are doing. Their mental health and state of being obviously is as dark and meek as the selected all black funeral they managed to throw on and seem put together.
So let’s all be a bit more creative with our questions for our friends and family. There are so many of us who have lost jobs, away from our loved ones and for all my fellow extroverts out there, slowly dying on the inside.
Here are some questions I suggest you start your conversations off with:
- How have you been passing your time?
- What are you doing to maintain your sanity/mental health?
- What hobbies have you picked up or decided to focus on?
- What’s the first thing you’d want to do after this is over and the first place you would go?
- What are some movie/TV shows you recommend based on my interest in ________?
- What has this quarantine taught you about yourself/family/person you are confined with?
- What’s something so basic that you miss the most?
There’s more but I’m sure these will be a great ice breaker to the alternative. I hope everyone is staying safe and at home wherever that is. I’ll be writing more frequently.
Love from 6ft away,